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Slut shaming and the Impact on women in the society

slut shaming

Slut shaming women is a generally acceptable norm in the society. Even women sluts shame other women every day. Before you start wondering what slut shaming is, we’d throw more light on the topic. You know that thing that men and women alike do when they see a woman dressed or behaving in a way society dims wrong because it is sexual? That’s slut shaming. Slut shaming is criticizing a woman for her sexual behaviors or actions simply because they are deemed inappropriate. Today, we want to look at a case study which is of importance to our society. Before I delve into this matter, I really do not want both parties to feel offended. I am only trying to drive a point home.

Case Scenario: Linda Ikeji vs Wizkid

Both are popular in the entertainment industry. The former is a blogger while the latter is a musician. We all know what transpired between both of them but for those who weren’t aware, Linda Ikeji blogged about Wizkid and he wasn’t too cool with it so there was a fight. During the course of the clash, Wizkid fired shots at Linda Ikeji for sleeping with his manager and the entire society made a deal out of it. This is where the slut shaming problem comes in.

Linda is a 36 year old woman. Wizkid is a 26 year old man who had a baby when he was 21. Miss Linda here has no kid. Though not married, she is a highly respectable woman. So what if she is sleeping with anybody? Is she not an adult who is responsible for her sexual decisions? Mr Wizkid who had a kid out of wedlock when he was a kid himself is slut shaming Miss Linda for sleeping with his manager? What moral standing does he have to talk about another person’s sexuality?

Society has made slut shaming so acceptable, women are not supposed to be in charge of their own sexuality. I did not see anyone rub it in Wizkid’s face when he had a kid out of wedlock. When men indulge in sexual activities, they’re just being men. It’s their right and nature to be sexual. When women indulge in sexual activities, they’re all whores. What is wrong with a woman being sexual or does everyone really think only men are sexual beings? While some level of decency should be applied on all levels, it should be applicable to both genders. I don’t see anyone slut shaming a man for having a baby out of wedlock. But when it is the women, even their fellow women want to cast stones.

Stupid illiterate behaviors like this are part of the reasons rape victims don’t want to speak out against the abuse. Molested victims will rather close their mouths than say what went down. Because every time a woman is assaulted, the questions of what she was wearing come up. How does that even make any sense? As far as society is concerned, if a woman is violated, she caused it. She sent wrong signals; she acted like a slut so she was treated as one. BULLSHIT. This has also impacted on why women endure cheating spouses. Because they have been programmed to believe “it is in a man’s nature to cheat”. But when women cheat, the slut shaming begins because she has violated all human laws.

This attitude of slut shaming women is barbaric, obsolete and antiquated. It is no longer acceptable. We cannot keep claiming to be advancing and acting like medieval people. We want all the latest inventions in the world but I think our minds need new software installations also. I guess mindset 2.0 is outdated so why use it when mindset 7.1 is available?

 

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